The Misunderstood Father's Day

As a father, I see how as a man we are so misunderstood. How many times have you bought or did something for your father on Father's Day and he would tell you, "You didn't have to do that." And maybe another time you may have not did anything for one reason or another and you could tell he was some what put off. Well I'm here to tell you that he's not sending mixed messages, it's actually the same message said different ways. Now stay with me on this.



I grew up with a father when I became a father. What I mean is my dad wasn't around a lot when I was growing up, so most of my fathering skills for the most part was instinct. Me and my father has a relationship now but it's not as close as the relationship that I and my son have. But back to the subject.



As a father, I do what I have to do for my family to survive, nothing I consider to be super human or heroic, but on the other hand not to be taken for granted. So when a father says "you didn't have to do that," first of all he really means that because he feels a little embarrassed that you are celebrating him for something he feels is nothing to be celebrated. As a father he has only done what a father is suppose to do.



On the other hand when you don't acknowledge Father's Day or his birthday, then he thinks everything he has done as a father has been taken for granted, he feels used, unappreciated. So you say, "what to do?" It's easier than you think. All you need to do is get to know your father. Most guys I know like party's as long as the party is not for them. So if you are going to do something for him keep it low key.



Now if you buy him something, buy him something you know he likes, not something he needs. Look at it this way, if you need a new pair tennis shoes, do you wait until your birthday to buy them, NO! You go get a new pair of sneaks, and so do I. If your dad is into tools (like I am) get him a tool, it doesn't matter what it is. I have about nine hammers and I use them all. I some times I buy 2 or three of the same tool because I like it so much that I never want to be with out one until I die and they may quit making them. People who have my addiction have a saying. " THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MANY TOOLS !!!". If he is into clothes get him clothes, but not because he needs them. Look if he needs clothes don't wait for a special day to get him some clothes, get them when he needs them. That has been what he has been doing for you all your life.



There is one thing you should remember, a true father LOVES BEING A FATHER.



I may be wrong, but I DOUBT IT !